I always felt this to be a simple and beautiful phrase that removes crazy expectations from relationships and keeps perspective on love so simple. The litter box is the litmus test for love and compatibility. "I always thought that love was about desire -- being with someone, holding someone, feeling someone. Love can come in lots of different ways and lots of different guises." That's the British artist Tracey Emin in a May 2012 BBC interview.
She's talking about her experience as a single woman artist nearing 50, but it's a great reminder for all of us, no matter our relationship status or age.
On Learning From Heartbreak When I was 16, the love of my young life (yes, Joe B., this means you) dumped me.
Sobbing on my bedroom floor, my mother, who was, and still is, head-over-heels in love with the same man for 51 years, sat down next to me, put her arm around me and said, "There are a lot of fish in the sea.
I wanted to hear more of these stories from other women, all sharing those key moments from their lives.
What simple piece of wisdom or guidance resonated with them, and why was it so meaningful?
Even so, the advice has stuck in my head all these years, and I still recite it to single friends who seem to have trouble making romantic relationships stick.
She said, "Marriage goes through cyclical phases, it's almost like the movements of planets.
Sometimes you're so close, the two of you, your orbits are in synch, and sometimes you move so far away from each other, you feel you'll never reconnect, never reenter each other's orbits, you're too far apart. I never forgot this advice; we moved far away from each other many times, and I waited it out, and sure enough, we came back into synch again.
Maybe I'm old-fashioned, but I still think that, in the early days of a relationship, the onus falls on the opposite sex.
My dad said something which has never left me in my 14 years of marriage, "You only have to answer to yourself. If you can live with this man don't let others influence your decision.