However, if you really think she is someone special, then you can make the no-contact rule for just one or two weeks and carry on with the rest of the plan. In fact, the more you stay away from her, the more she will miss you. In fact, it’s a good way to learn the nature of relationships. There are a few points that I would like you to consider before moving on to the next step Now, in most cases, the rebound relationship will end before the no-contact period is over. But you have to build attraction with her while she is still with him. You should wait at least a few weeks to contact her with text after you send the letter. You want her to know that you are glad she was a part of your life and that you want her to be your friend again. Now, you have to use this other guy’s mistakes as your advantage.
I know she is with someone else, and you might think like she is just busy having fun with this guy to even remember you. She is actually quite confused in her mind all the time and even though she might be trying to forget you, this rebound relationship is not giving her the time to actually work through her emotions and move on. And pretty soon, when you contact her, you will be in the front of her mind. I know it sounds a like a dick move, by stealing someone’s girlfriend. On the other hand, if you are planning to be a shitty boyfriend and treating her with disrespect, then you should just let her be with her new boyfriend and get some counseling. In this case, we are saving a little bit of time by not sending the letter. Now, while texting, she might bring up her new relationship. Texting is perfect because you are in contact with her and he will have no idea.
NOTE: We are re-posting this article on Warning Signs – Insults You/Calls You Names to allow you to read some of the excellent comments we’ve received from those who are or have been in an abusive relationship.
You will have to ask her to choose between you and him.
Tell her that you can’t be friends with her if she chooses to be with him because it’s too hard for you.
Usually, during this process, she will decide to leave her new boyfriend and come back to you.
But if she doesn’t you have to ask her about it some time.